Advises.

When you are upset and then people ask whether you are alright and you say yes but then it’s pretty evident that you are not alright from the way your voice croaked when just tried to keep it together and answer calmly. So then they ask again whether you are fine and then you just cannot even attempt to answer because you know that the very next second you do, there will be an onset of a cascade of tears which will be very hard to control. So then you remain silent and they figure out that their suspicion was right. Then comes the tough part because they assume it’s about something that is entirely not related about what is going on in your mind or they ask what is it about and you lie because you don’t want to talk to them about it because they are not the right person to open up to and you cannot give them the silent treatment because you don’t want to be rude. So then they begin to advise you about life and it’s ways and all that, basically they tell you everything you already know and even if the actual problem was what they assumed it to be, they keep saying all the wrong things that is never going to help you out because you think very much differently from them but you cannot ask them to stop because once again you don’t want to be rude and it’s actually not their fault either because they are just trying to help and then it reaches the point where they still keep saying the very same thing you do not want to hear of when you are upset and that infuriates you but you cannot express that because they don’t deserve that. And then there is no polite way to even ask them to shut up and leave you alone so you just have to nod your head and go along with everything they say and then pretend to be happy or positive or whatever. I don’t know about other people but this is what usually happens to me and this is the main reason I always pretend to not be worried about anything because every time someone catches me upset, this is the exact thing that happens. They care for me but they don’t know me so though they are trying to be helpful, the situation just keeps getting worst. All of this happens because each one of us interpret stuff differently so it is pretty tough to try to console or advise someone or to be the one receiving all that advise.